Dynamics – 1. (used with a singular verb) Physics. the branch of mechanics that deals with the motion and equilibrium of systems under the action of forces, usually from outside the system. (I see this dynamic as Gods part) 2. (used with a plural verb) the motivating or driving forces, physical or moral, in any field. 3. the pattern or history of growth, change, and development in any field. (husband and wife part) Somehow this makes sense to me like this. God keeps the motion and equilibrium in the relationship and working with husband and wife, the motivating/driving forces, both physical and moral with a pattern and history of growth, changing and developing.
What we do, how we act and react, how we treat one another will determine the dynamics in our relationship with our spouse. Our perception of our spouse can greatly effect the dynamic of our relationship. Having God in our marriage will affect the dynamic of your relationship.
The bible says in Ephesians 5:22-24 -Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
This has been extremely difficult for me because I feel I am being led/pulled in one direction and my husband is pulling me away from it. And the bible also says to put God first and trust Him so I’m doing that before I’m listening to my husband about getting a “job”.
It also says to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. So husbands are to submit to their wives also. Now does it say husbands submit to your wives, no but it does say submit to one another and that means the same thing… right?
It also says, husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. -Ephesians 5:25-28
Husbands love your wives… they will become how you treat them. If you treat them like they are a stupid B***H, they will act like a crazy stupid B***h… IF she sticks around. If you treat her like she’s precious and valuable, she will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
Wives, we have to submit to our husbands… as to the Lord. We have to honor our husbands even if they don’t act honorable. I’m working on this…
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. -Colossians 3:18,19
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the Word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. -1Peter 3:1,2
I’m working on that…
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. -1 Peter 3:7
Okay we submit to one another… what does that mean? Simply put your spouse before yourself. That’s it. It’s that simple. Humble yourself and put your spouse first.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. -Colossians 3:12-14
Imagine if we lived with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience with our spouse….
Yeah just imagine that one for a moment…
Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife. -Proverbs 21:9
OUCH. Let that one sink in and remember it when you’re angry and you just have to open your mouth. I try too…
A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult. -Proverbs 12:16
How many times have you shown your annoyance? How many times have you overlooked an insult?
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18
Do you use reckless words? Or do your words bring healing?
Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable -if anything is excellent or praiseworthy -think about such things. -Philippians 4:8,9
Man… do I have to remind myself of these scriptures…
We can magnify what is bad or we can magnify what is good. What we magnify becomes bigger. And if what we magnify becomes bigger then we have the power to save a relationship or destroy it. If we magnify a problem, it can have the power to destroy a relationship. But on the other hand, if we magnify Who is good, our Savior, He has the power to save.
How do you want the dynamics of your marriage to work?